so i had this poem memorized since seminary in high school when i heard it, liked it, memorized it, but its been on my mind lately so lets see if i can recall it.
BUILDER
I walked one down through a lonely town
and saw men tearing a building down,
with a ho he ho and a husky yell
they swung a beam and a side wall fell.
I asked the foremen are these men skilled
the kind you'd hire if you had to build,
why no he chuckled no indeed
the common laborer is all i need,
why i can destroy in a day or two
what builders have taken weeks to do.
I thought to myself as i went on my way
which of these roles have i tried to play ?
Am i the builder who works with care
strengthening lives by rule and square
helping them to be the best the can
making them into a well made plan.
or am i the wrecker who walks around
content with the labour or tearing down?
So i guess maybe thats something we can all think about.
Monday, February 23, 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
the cuttest video
WE LOVE OUR NEW BABY. this is the cuttest video, she smiles, cues, and then goes crosseyed who new she could do so much in thirty seconds!
Sunday, February 15, 2009
tj knee surgery
we survived ti but now no work for three weeks. What do you do with no income for a month?Wednesday, February 4, 2009
dealing with ex's
OK this one has to be quick because i have to go teach...... I had the most interesting experience that has lead me to want to be a better person. So my sister and her significant other where having a Christmas party, a cookie decorating one for the kids. Well a cute blonde girl walked in and my sister gave her a hug and so did her boyfriend i talked to her she was really nice etc. After she left i asked my sister who that was, i thought i new most her friends, she said oh its his ex wife, WHAT! i said i was floored. My sister and her significant other are hanging out with his ex wife? I was puzzled. So once the night slowed down i pulled him aside to ask the ever posing question, "how can you two even still be friends let alone every one hang out together?" He talked to me for ever, a hour, about it but in a nut shell he said the following,
I decided to forgive and move on, and the only was to truly move on is to let go of all the drama and hurt feelings.
I decided to just see her as a friend just like my other friends
I realized that we where two different people and that's OK we where not meant to be together
I realized the drama comes from both sides feeding into each other, so i just decided to forget about it
I DECIDED TO FORGIVE
He said that was the hardest thing at first to forgive, but he said it only works if you both agree to do it. This intells not talking about each other unless its positive, to look at the situation literally like they are a friend, how do you treat your friends?
This all makes sense to me i just didn't think it was possible, but they are showing it is.
Its amazing instead of hurting each other they help each other, when i was there she got really sick and needed to go to the hospital her new husband was out of town so she called my sister and him and they took her to the hospital and stayed with her all night. They communicate with each other in a positive way he said.
There was so much more to it then that, but out of all of it i got the point.
his point to me was you only fight if that's what your choosing to do. He said its not all about you always getting your way, because in real life that rarely happens anyways.
So i took it to heart and you know what it works. for example randy was coming up here to work for the week so he just brought my kids back home and i didn't have to meet him. But the next week he asked if i would please drive to globe which is 2.5 hours from my house and only a hour from his, but he was driving from safford to the valley and since he brought them all the way up the last time that was fair. So i did. We also are trying to be more accommodating of each other with our kids. Like switching around weekends if necessary. we also decided to be more flexable with our times and meeting places. But we are trying to make sure things are fair, but more important that the kids are not noticing any fighting and get to spend as much time with both parents. Its not there fault this all happened it never is the kids fault and yet they seem to get the worse end of the deal. And now last week he ask us if we wanted to all go to Mexico together with the kids, not sure we will but it the thought that we can both live our life and be ok with it and both be good parents to our kids. Yes we have alot to argue about but why? whats the point? so Hopefully this will continue and there will be less drama and the kids will feel better about everything.
I decided to forgive and move on, and the only was to truly move on is to let go of all the drama and hurt feelings.
I decided to just see her as a friend just like my other friends
I realized that we where two different people and that's OK we where not meant to be together
I realized the drama comes from both sides feeding into each other, so i just decided to forget about it
I DECIDED TO FORGIVE
He said that was the hardest thing at first to forgive, but he said it only works if you both agree to do it. This intells not talking about each other unless its positive, to look at the situation literally like they are a friend, how do you treat your friends?
This all makes sense to me i just didn't think it was possible, but they are showing it is.
Its amazing instead of hurting each other they help each other, when i was there she got really sick and needed to go to the hospital her new husband was out of town so she called my sister and him and they took her to the hospital and stayed with her all night. They communicate with each other in a positive way he said.
There was so much more to it then that, but out of all of it i got the point.
his point to me was you only fight if that's what your choosing to do. He said its not all about you always getting your way, because in real life that rarely happens anyways.
So i took it to heart and you know what it works. for example randy was coming up here to work for the week so he just brought my kids back home and i didn't have to meet him. But the next week he asked if i would please drive to globe which is 2.5 hours from my house and only a hour from his, but he was driving from safford to the valley and since he brought them all the way up the last time that was fair. So i did. We also are trying to be more accommodating of each other with our kids. Like switching around weekends if necessary. we also decided to be more flexable with our times and meeting places. But we are trying to make sure things are fair, but more important that the kids are not noticing any fighting and get to spend as much time with both parents. Its not there fault this all happened it never is the kids fault and yet they seem to get the worse end of the deal. And now last week he ask us if we wanted to all go to Mexico together with the kids, not sure we will but it the thought that we can both live our life and be ok with it and both be good parents to our kids. Yes we have alot to argue about but why? whats the point? so Hopefully this will continue and there will be less drama and the kids will feel better about everything.
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